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Friday, November 16. 2007
Friends, Teens and SEX!
Well, I’ve been back online now four days. Had to play around on MySpace and my other play sites … I’m in love … with myself mostly, but there’s a little love for a few others. Actually, a lot of love.My living situation these past few months has been tenuous, at the very least. If it wasn’t for a tight coterie of friends here in Sandy fuckin Eggo, hard to imagine surviving this long. The Ranger is gone; my main mode of transportation is the Trek and the abysmal San Diego transit system.
In most cities, the mass transit system is an economical alternative to driving a vehicle to-and-from work, school and our various other daily destinations. Not so the San Diego system, although if you buy a monthly pass the cost drops considerably. But a trip that takes 20 minutes by automobile is easily an hour on the bus. Glad I have the Trek along.
Friends are the eternal food for the soul, in good times and always in bad. After taking a pass on two buses that had both bike racks filled, I called around until I found a friend, Mike, who picked up me and my Trek and gave us a ride home. Twenty-five miles of traveling for Mike. And he wouldn’t accept a penny of gas money. Never forget to love your friends.
Wonder how many friends Barry Bonds has … he’s just been indicted. Four counts of perjury and one count of obstructing justice for allegedly lying to federal authorities about taking steroids and other banned substances. Actually, he has at least two friends, Greg Anderson, his personal trainer who has spent the past year in jail rather than roll over on Bonds, and Victor Conte, the owner of BALCO, the lab that allegedly supplied Bonds — and several other world-class athletes — with steroids. Conte swears neither he nor his company gave Bonds the steroids that were found in his system … apparently found by BALCO’s own testing regimen.All this information is “leaked” information from the grand jury investigation. So … who “leaked” it and what was the motivation? American jurisprudence … kinda light on the prudence.
Speaking of less prudence, an article just published in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence, says teens who start having sex at an early age are less likely to engage in delinquency at an older age. In fact, the lead researcher found kids who engage in sex at an early age are less likely to be anti-social! Man! Why couldn’t they have figured that out when I was 13? I could have been a pillar of society by now!
The lead researcher is Kathryn Paige Harden, a Ph.D. candidate in clinical psychology at the University of Virginia.
There is in this country the view that the younger someone is when they start having sexual encounters, the worse off they’ll be later on in life, especially young girls/women. No one ever had any real evidence to support that — I was about to be generous and call it a theory — but the story has been a “family” staple for decades. Of course, we always hear and read about young teen mothers, but that’s less about them having sex than having unprotected sex — in other words, being ignorant to the facts of life.
What passes for the “facts of life” discussion these days is “sex is bad, abstinence is good,” pretty much to satisfy the religious extremists who control so much of the political debate. Wonder how many people will react to this: before they hit puberty, kids should be told what sex is, why sex is, who it is they’re likely to have sex with; how sex is performed; what oral sex, anal sex and vaginal sex are — not to mention masturbation! — what foreplay is and its role in sexual behavior — boys really ought to learn this so when girls reach adulthood they have a better opinion of sex — and then once they hit puberty, taught the proper use of condoms and the importance of using condoms — please, no bullshit about condoms not being effective, those studies have been proven to be faulty at best — and girls ought to be given appropriate contraceptives, depending on their own physical and physiological requirements.
Some real dear friends of mine are parents and they will of course disagree, if they don’t reject my thoughts on the subject as outright Satanic perversion, but time and time again it has been proven that informed kids make better decisions and if your teens are fully informed about sex, relationships and the benefits and consequences of both, they are less likely to come home at the age of 16 and say, “Hey Mom! Yer gonna be a grandmother!”
It will never happen of course, as a society we don’t want to let go of the shit we were brought up to believe was true and righteous. That’s why religion has made such a big comeback since the swinging ‘70’s when we were experiencing life as life was meant to be lived, without the emotional and psychological chains religion has put on our souls since the beginning of recorded history.
It wasn’t the sex that did us in; it was all the alcohol and drugs! In fact, many of us were too stoned to have sex, let alone good sex!
Religion fills a void, gives people a sense of belonging and the hope that there is something after life that makes our sacrifice and suffering on Earth worth something more than an ornate grave stone.
If you believe Jesus Christ is the Lord and Savior, you will be happy despite the trials and pitfalls of human existence. The same belief follows in Judaism and Islam, but with different focal points of adoration. If something wonderful happens in life, its one of God’s blessings or a miracle. For the bad times and sad events, it’s all in God’s plan; he has a reason for it to happen this way and God will carry you — your emotional and psychological spirit — through the hard times if only you believe. That last part isn’t such a bad notion actually. On many occasions I’ve used the collective consciousness of my small circle of friends to carry me through difficult times, meditating on their steady and kind words of encouragement and strength. There is strength in numbers, and that’s the other aspect of religion that makes it so appealing.
Religion, at least the Judeo-Christian-Muslim variety, is a freakish institution with absolutely no basis in reality. Religion’s only reality is keeping us under its thumb and taking our money.
Remember in 1986 when the religious freaks and the extremist women’s libbers got together on the “Meese Commission” to stamp out pornography, when they all agreed their opinions — including the opinion that sex between men and women is bad — ought to rule the land? All of the members of the commission were anti-porn crusaders; none were remotely objective and none even entertained the notion of making the report objective. One of the tactics this anti-pornography group was to cherry pick data from studies to support their view that pornography is bad, citing the research and the researchers, but then twisting the results and conclusions of the researchers to fit the “pornography is bad” conclusion the commission was set up to support.
Most of those whose research was abused for this commission complained vociferously after it was published because of the wildly inaccurate picture it painted of pornography and the research on pornography.
This just goes on and on. This same commission had convenience stores stop selling Playboy, Penthouse and other adult magazines. To this day there are 7-11’s that don’t sell those magazines, but in a true display of: A) Irony, or B) hypocrisy, these same stores sell the “laddy” magazines like Stuff and Maxim. This shit just boggles the senses!
What really boggles the senses is that Stuff and Maxim are pretty much the same price as Playboy and Penthouse (and other adult magazines) and the only difference is the adult magazines feature full nudity and the laddie magazines don’t. So, why would someone over 18 buy Maxim (for instance) and not Penthouse? Stuff and Maxim often feature photo spreads of Penthouse Pets and Playboy Playmates (and Cyber Girls), but not totally nude. So, if I ... let’s say this is hypothetical ... have the totally nude photos, why would I buy a rag that features the same model wearing too much clothing? The short answer I get when asking this question is that they buy it for the humor. Well, maybe I’m too old for their humor, ’cause I have never laughed at anything written in either of those rags, although Maxim has been running some excellent articles about and devoted to the men and women serving in Iraq. Kudos Maxim! Okay, that’s a reason to buy Maxim. Ed Meese, former Attorney General. He’s been investigated more than President Bill Clinton and had to resign from the California bar. But he continues to be a shining knight of the religious right! So, Clinton and Meese have something in common: both have been stripped of their privilege to practice law.
So, back to the topic, after the supercilious tangent within a tangent that was an addendum to a first tangent. Teens having sex is a good thing! Let’s be clear, I’m not contemplating finding young, willing teens with whom to engage in the hokey-pokey. According to research, the females of our species don’t reach physical maturity — their physical prime — until their early to mid-twenties. That’s generally who I’m eyeballing. But even at that age women might be less than in bed; the best sex I ever had was with a woman who was 39 at the time.
Of course, I’m willing to have sex with as many women in their early to mid-twenties as needed to either prove or disprove the anecdotal notion women don’t reach their sexual prime until their mid-thirties. Hey … Hef can’t do it alone.
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